Compulsive gambling is an emotional problem. Compulsive gamblers usually think about wonderful things they are going to do when they make the great win. Addicted person creates a lot of problems, such as the loss of friends, family conflicts, financial problems and problems with a law. They often dream about providing families and friends with new presents, cars, houses and other things. Compulsive gamblers usually see themselves as quite charming and philanthropic people. Compulsive gamblers usually think about a pleasant gracious life made possible by the huge sums of money they will accrue after a great win. Pathetically there never seems to be a big enough winning to make even the smallest dream come true. When compulsive gamblers succeed they gamble to dream still greater dreams. They usually gamble in reckless desperation and the depths of their misery are fathomless as their dream would break down. Unfortunately they will struggle back, dream more dreams and of course suffer more misery. The financial problems often seem easy to settle. When a problem gamblers go to Gamblers Anonymous to quit gambling, income is usually increased. Gamblers Anonymous members have found that the best way to financial recovery is through hard work and repayment of the debts. Lending and borrowing money in Gamblers Anonymous is harmful to the recovery. The most difficult problem with which they will be faced is that of bringing about a character change within themselves.
There are three gambling phases, which include: 1. The winning phase, during which addicted ones have a big win or a series of wins that leaves them with irrational optimism that their winning will continue. This makes them to feel great excitement when gambling.
2. The losing phase, during which the gamblers often begin boasting about wins they have had, start gambling alone.They often think a lot about borrowing money and gambling. They start lying to friends and family and become more restless, irritable and withdrawn. Their home life becomes more unhappy and they are unable to pay off arrearages. The gamblers begin to "chase" their defeats, believing they can win back their losses.
3. The desperation phase, during which the time spending on gambling increase. This is accompanied by pity, blaming others and alienating friends and family. Ultimately, the addicted people may finance their gambling by illegal way. They may experience hopelessness, suicidal thoughts and attempts, divorce, arrests, emotional breakdown and alcohol or other drug abuse.
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